The Single Mom And The Santa Showdown

I just want to start by saying that Mom groups on Facebook are a blessing and a curse. On one hand, moms in those groups give some of the best advice. On the other, sometimes you can’t tell if you’re dealing with moms or grown ass children.

The Single Mom and the santa show down

I was scrolling through a Facebook group the other day, when I saw a Christmas thread. An admin asked the members if our children believed in Santa and why/why not? Thinking nothing of it, I left a comment saying no. My girl’s don’t believe in Santa because after spending hundreds of dollars on toys every year, some old guy isn’t taking the credit for it. That’s not the only reason, but that was none of their business. Before commenting, I really thought I was in a group with mature adults. NOPE! I saw everything from “You should let your kids be kids” to “It’s selfish to ruin Christmas for them” Girl, what?  After going through HOURS of labour and pushing two kids out of my vag, if I wanted them to believe the sky was black, that would be my decision.  At that moment, I had to think long and hard about my next decision. Did I want to explain myself further, or did I want to send a virus to someone’s computer? I decided to be an adult and just exit the conversation.

My girls really don’t believe in Santa and here’s why . . . 

Santa is NOWHERE in The Bible. I grew up in a Christian home and was taught that Christmas is about the birth of Jesus. I’m sure some people would argue that there is no Jesus, but that’s between you and whoever you answer to. As for me and my household . . .

Even though they don’t believe in Santa, the girls do participate in Christmas activities like any other children. We go to the Galaxy of Lights and binge watch Christmas movies. They still get excited when they see the mall Santa, as any other three and six year old would. They just don’t believe that he climbs down the chimney (that we don’t have) to deliver presents (that they specifically asked me for) on Christmas Eve. Once again, my kids, and my decision.

In other news, I did a thing. . .

Christmas Printables

In honor of Christmas and for the sake of learning, I made the girl’s Christmas worksheets. It’s not much, just something they can color and practice writing on. If you’d like to download the free Christmas worksheets, they’ll be available in the printables library here.

Christmas Worksheets


Hi, I’m Chantal. I’m a mom of two, self proclaimed naturalista, and Author of Growing Girls With Curls: Short Stories For Girls of Color. Being a mom is hard. Pair that with being a single, black, millennial in America and it’s a whole different monster. Feel free to join my mailing list and follow along as I blog through this crazy thing called life.

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  1. Iman
    December 7, 2017 / 10:01 pm

    I definitely agree with you… lol. My mother didn’t play that either!! No Santa, just her and daddy making ends meet. I think it is very vital for children to know the difference!!

    Great post!

    • Chantal
      December 8, 2017 / 1:00 pm

      My mom tried the Santa thing for the sake of trying, but I as a nosey kid. I didn’t care if he was real or not, as long as my presents were real lol. People online do the absolute most.

  2. December 7, 2017 / 11:22 am

    Totally agree with the FB Moms, some are just too much! I have deleted many of those groups because of the different views that get to be too much! We talk about Santa but soon my children will know its Mommy and Daddy…never thought of the topic to be a big deal either way!

    • Chantal
      December 8, 2017 / 12:56 pm

      I’ve learned to pick and choose my groups wisely lol. People forget the whole meaning of Christmas.

  3. December 7, 2017 / 2:34 am

    Hahaha people are all kinds of nuts when it comes to Xmas. It doesn’t ruin anyone’s holiday to not believe in Santa.
    My family is interfaith so we pick and choose holidays and traditions. We don’t do Santa either and between all the things we do do, my kids have a blast.
    Plus what about all the kids who don’t celebrate Xmas, you’d think their life sucks according to people like that.

    Last year when my daughter was 3, they had a visit from Santa at her daycare and she was so scared of him I had to tell her it was just pretend and that it was just the daycare owner’s husband dressed up.

    • Chantal
      December 8, 2017 / 12:55 pm

      It’s ridiculous. I’m convinced some people just want something to complain about lol.

  4. December 6, 2017 / 10:10 pm

    What you choose to tell your girls is up to you, not for anyone else to judge you on!! Good for you, I love this!

    • Chantal
      December 6, 2017 / 11:09 pm

      Thank you so much for reading!

  5. December 6, 2017 / 8:12 pm

    We do Santa over here. Not for the biggest gifts but we do and I also grew up with Santa. But I definitely agree that it shouldn’t spark an outrage either way lol. This post had me cracking up!

    • Chantal
      December 6, 2017 / 11:08 pm

      Lol I’m glad you were entertained.

  6. December 6, 2017 / 7:18 pm

    This is great, so much truth! Those ladies must have a lot of extra time on their hands; where they feel they need to worry about what you’re doing with your kids! You’re great keep it up!

    • Chantal
      December 6, 2017 / 11:07 pm

      Too much time on their hands! lol Thank you for reading!

  7. December 6, 2017 / 7:07 pm

    You KNOW this post had me CRACKING up!! It’s filled with so much truth! I found out Santa wasn’t real when I found a receipt that listed all the toys that I got that year. I would’ve preferred to just know the truth. My son is too young to care right now but when he gets older we plan to tell him the TRUTH! Great post as usual Mama!

    • Chantal
      December 6, 2017 / 11:07 pm

      Listen , lol

  8. December 6, 2017 / 6:32 pm

    Beautifully said! We don’t believe in Santa either and I too have heard those lovely comments

  9. December 6, 2017 / 6:14 pm

    I agree 100% with your decision to not teach your children that Santa purchased all those gifts. They need the facts and the truth that Jesus is the reason for the season. Thanks for sharing.


    • Chantal
      December 6, 2017 / 11:01 pm

      Yes! Thanks for reading Charlene!

  10. December 6, 2017 / 10:36 am

    I love this so much I pinned it on my mommy boards. Beautifully written.

    • Chantal
      December 6, 2017 / 4:18 pm

      Thank you Meg !!

  11. December 5, 2017 / 8:31 pm

    I don’t think it’s selfish at all and you don’t have to answer to petty women. My husband and I made a conscious choice not to celebrate with presents so our girls will never know Santa, but they’ll know what Christmas is really about. Every family is different!

    • Chantal
      December 6, 2017 / 4:24 pm

      Yes ! I was so confused as to why anyone would care about what I did with my own children.

  12. December 5, 2017 / 8:02 pm

    I think you have it figured out. I learned from my mistake when “Santa” got my boys the best present a year when they were little. What was I thinking? While they still kind believe Santa surely doesn’t bring the best stuff. That is for mom and dad cause I want some credit.

    • Chantal
      December 6, 2017 / 4:27 pm

      That would’ve hurt my feelings lol. Shopping for Christmas gifts is a struggle in itself. Kid’s are a lot smarter than we think. If I wasn’t the one to tell them about Santa, someone else’s child probably would’ve done it at school.