Being A Mom Blogger. Expectation Vs. Reality

2018 was the year of the mom blogger. Everyone I knew was starting a blog and for good reason. As a mom blogger, it’s safe to say that we are indeed the shit. Raising kids, cooking, cleaning, AND managing a whole website is not easy. Don’t even get me started on having to explain to your child why they have to take a picture in the middle of the grocery store with a carton of chocolate milk. Seriously, it’s a tough job but we’re happy to do it (for the most part). Blogging has it pros and cons like anything else. You have to deal with people copying your blog posts, people from your hometown wanting to blog just because you’re doing it *eye roll*, and other bloggers trying to finesse you out of your hard earned money. It gets real out here on the internet! I rounded up a few mom bloggers to help explain just how real it is

Being a mom blogger

Expectation: When I first started blogging, the goal was to become a paid blogger.
Reality: While I did achieve that goal, It wasn’t as easy as I thought it would be and I haven’t done it consistently yet.

Expectation: “I thought it would be a simple side project.”
Reality: “I have to balance my energy for wanting to blog and develop content with making sure that I’m present and providing for my family as well.” – Lina @

Expectation: I thought that with being in mom blogger groups, I would make some friends who wouldn’t mind helping me along the way . . .
Reality: Y’all . . . I did make a lot of blogging friends, but mom bloggers can be some of THE pettiest people ever. Like, extremely petty.

Expectation: “I expected to be the type of blogger with a picture perfect social media timeline that blows up almost instantly.”
Reality: “It has been much more fun being authentic, engaging with real people, and saying a few curse words along the way.” – Tiara @

Expectation: “I thought I would be able to post a couple of times a week with no interruptions.”
Reality: “That hasn’t been the case. Life happens! I got pregnant, and sometimes I just don’t feel like blogging.” – Kisha @

Expectation: I expected my children to cooperate in my blogging shenanigans.
Reality: Long story short, they don’t.

Expectation: ” I jumped into blogging toward the end of 2018 because I love sharing my take on motherhood. From all of the pretty Instagram posts and mom bloggers I follow on social media, I figured it couldn’t be that hard. Just shoot from the hip, share, and big brands will contact you to collaborate.”
Reality: ” I learned that you have to be creative in the way you share content so that you don’t blend in with other bloggers. I also learned that blogging is time consuming. I once spent 6 hours on ONE post.” Kiva @

Expectation: Big brands have a lot of money, so they wouldn’t mind paying bloggers what they’re worth.
Reality: Most brands will want you to do a photoshoot, blog post, social media posts, and offer your first born in exchange for a free product. That’s it, that’s all.

Expectation: “It’s a job I can do while being a SAHM.”
Realilty: “The second my kids see me on the computer they’re all over me. I have to make time to work on my blog.” Paula @

Expectation: I thought that once my blog was established, I’d have more support from family and friends.
Reality: Most of them don’t even know my blog url . . .

Expectation: “I planned to take a bunch of cute pictures of my kids and make money.”
Reality: “They don’t cooperate” – Ashley @

Expectation: “Getting up early to type a few words before my household wakes, and the day begins.”
Reality: “I can’t help but sleep until the last minute.” – Debbie @

Expectation: ” Write frequent entries on my blog.”
Reality: “Take tons of photos to share on social media and express my thoughts through the captions.” – Haley @

Expectation: ” I thought mom blogging would be easy.”
Reality: “Daily I’m working through figuring out content while typing with one hand and feeding toddlers with the other.” Christa @

I think it’s safe to say that we all underestimated just how much time and effort goes into blogging. I have gone months without writing a word because I was burned out. Blogging can be rewarding, but it can also drain you if you let it. Shoutout to the mom bloggers from Mom Blogger’s Unite, and The Black Blogger’s Collective for helping me with this post. As always, both groups are accepting new members.


Hi, I’m Chantal. I’m a mom of two, self proclaimed naturalista, and Author of Growing Girls With Curls: Short Stories For Girls of Color. Being a mom is hard. Pair that with being a single, black, millennial in America and it’s a whole different monster. Feel free to join my mailing list and follow along as I blog through this crazy thing called life.

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  1. February 26, 2019 / 12:02 pm

    I agree with all these moms and the difficulty of being a mom blogger. I, too, thought it would be simple and easy to make money as a side hustle but there’s a lot more to it than I first expected.

  2. February 26, 2019 / 9:32 am

    I’ve enjoyed being a mom blogger so far. It’s hard explaining the struggle to non-blogging friends who “just don’t get it”. But it’s fun reading articles like this and knowing that others understand the true struggle. Great post!

  3. February 25, 2019 / 11:06 pm

    I am a mommy blogger! And I feel this deep within my bones. A lot of the big, pretty mommy Instagram pages have tons of money & support backing them up too. I don’t have any money.

  4. February 25, 2019 / 7:01 pm

    Any tips on how to go into a new blog with more realistic expectations? Realistic time frames per post, per day, etc.? I’m just starting out and I totally appreciate the honesty but really am just not sure what is supposed to be “normal” for a successful blog.

    • Chantal
      February 25, 2019 / 7:09 pm

      Hi Ashley,
      Write out your own personal blogging goals, post ideas, and make a schedule you can stick to. Everyone’s definition of success is different. Think about what it means to you and your blog and go from there. I can’t tell you when and how much to post because I definitely post whenever I feel like it at this point.

  5. February 25, 2019 / 4:14 pm

    Typing with one hand and feeding a toddler with the other?? Totally get you. My baby has decided that she won’t even be happy in a baby wrap on my front so I can type!

  6. February 25, 2019 / 2:10 pm

    Funny and true! Thank you for including me. Hopefully this inspires me to get my next blog post up and running this week!

  7. February 25, 2019 / 1:54 pm

    Oh ya! Mom bloggers can be the worst 🙈 so sad because we should be helping each other and lifting one another up!

    • Chantal
      February 25, 2019 / 2:02 pm

      Yes, we definitely should. Things would be a lot easier that way.

  8. February 25, 2019 / 1:52 pm

    I’m a mommy blogger! I’m not petty lol. I want to make mommy blogger friends lol. thank you for the shout out. This list is very real and I’m so glad I’m not alone.

    • Chantal
      February 25, 2019 / 2:01 pm

      Lol!! It’s possible to find your tribe within the madness.